(S)he's Just Not That Into You

(S)He’s just not that into you…
I avoided this book because just the premise pissed me off. In high school, we had a guest speaker who came to talk to us about s-e-x. This guy was a tool. Basically said, “Girls, you have to control yourselves because boys can’t control themselves.” Oh really? What, are they just mindless animals who think of nothing but how to get to a woman? Whatever. Sorry guys, I’m not buying it. The movie came out and I was intrigued. First of all, there are a lot of good actors in it that I really like. Second, it appeared that the movie was a little more open about the plight of ALL single people, not just women. What’s fascinating about this movie, and makes it a little better than the average romantic comedy is that everyone wants what they can’t have. Jennifer Aniston wants to marry the guy who won’t marry her. Scarlett Johannsen wants to be with the guy who is married. Why? According to Justin Long, the “player” of the film: people do what they want to do. And people DON’T do what they don’t want to do. Pretty simple, right? Not so much. For whatever reason we’ve decided we need certain things. A soul mate, a partner, someone to love and who loves us. Sounds great, so why is it so hard? Because of our own delusions. Because of the early lessons learned. Who knows. The good news is that as I get older, it gets easier. And it was a good movie. Very entertaining and fun. But let this be a lesson - people really do what they want to do. And they don’t do what they don’t want to do. So if you are asking yourself “why isn’t (s)he calling? Why doesn’t (s)he want me?” Well, sorry, they just don’t want to. Move on and get happy.